“Before you speak, let your words pass through 3 gates: Is it true, necessary and kind?”
The wise words from Rumi makes a lot of sense doesn’t it? Let’s face it guys, a large part of our stress inputs come from society. Dealing with people can be tricky because you encounter all types of personalities and characters.
How you manage social stress will determine whether you’ll live a happier and more fulfiling life. Today I’ll share a few things that you can try out and beat social stress like a pro!
Smile
When did you last smiled genuinely? One common feedback when people meet me for the first time is that they said I’m always smiling and looking happy (even when I’m down). I guess smiling has become a part of my life.
When you smile, you activite both your zygomaticus major muscles, which are the main muscles that make you smile. When you activate these muscles, they have a big impact on your brain and stress response. Smile even though you have no reason to because it releases serotonin and dopamine (the Yin-Yang neurotransmitters) which will help you keep your stress levels down.. Nobody likes a bitchy faced dickhead or someone who thinks he looks ‘cool’ by not smiling. If you want to be successful, a genuine big smile is a necessity.
Wrong perception
Sometimes we stress out when dealing with people because we make wrong premature conclusions about each other. It’s not how we say things, but rather how other perceive the things we say. A small misunderstanding can lead to unnecessary stress and a huge waste of time.
The best way is to always choose face-to-face communication rather than via WhatsApp messages. Before COVID19, we have no issues seeing, feeling and noticing the body language when someone else is communicating with us. The tone of the voice & facial expression can totally change the meaning of a sentence.
Don’t allow any chance of misinterpretions which will always lead to unneccesary stress.
No expectations, no dissapointments
When you do something nice for a person, don’t expect anything in return. I have the unfortunate opportunities in my life to deal with very ungrateful people. When these people need you, they’re very nice to you; When the benefit stops, you suddenly become their enemy.
So, if you decide to treat someone nice, never set any expectations that they’ll be nice to you in return. Doing otherwise will open you up to waiting, and waiting is a dependency which is a weakness and a source of unnecessary stress.
Do it yourself!
This leads me to my last point – you need to learn quickly in life that nobody owes you anything and the sooner you are independent the better it is. Do not rely on anybody but yourself.
Charles Poliquin mentioned that he learnt this from one of his mentors:
“Focus on your strength, hire for your weakness”
So, if you need someone to help you out – pay that person! Do not expect to perform charity for you if you’re capable of doing things by your own. Don’t know? Go learn! What’s the problem? No time? Show me your calendar! It’s all about priorities.
No one else has your success at heart more than than yourself
Meanwhile..
I am extremely grateful that in the past month, I have been blessed with overwhelming support from friends all over the country. The July #READY Program is ready to start with more than 90 participants. I can’t wait to show them how my DreiOptima Performance Protocol™ is able to help them lose fat, get stronger and recover optimally for better health and vitality
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