What type of person are you?

Have you been spending some time with yourself to figure out what type of person you are?

What you’re trying to become?

Are you more of a giver than a taker?

Have you been helping people but don’t know how to receive something from others?

Those are just some of the insights you should be thinking about from time to time. When I was asking the same questions to myself, I told myself…

“I am a good person, but I am not a nice person.”

Let me explain what I mean by that:

I know how to be kind and nice to others, but since mid-last year have learned how to stand up for things I strongly believe in. Even to some of my good friends, I learned how to say NO to them.

I became more selfish when it comes to my own happiness, the things I love to do and the things I care about and believe in.

There were certain hard decisions I have to make, such as cutting out a lot of clutter in my life (which includes people). I have learned how powerful it is to just simplify, simplify, simplify.

In the book “The Power of Less” by Leo Babauta I have learned that by limiting myself to just the bare essentials, I achieve more in life and is happier.

Don’t save anyone. It’s not your responsibility.

I have seen so many people so stressed out to the point of becoming mentally ill. Some of them generate self-worth by being nasty and harbouring a lot of negative energy not just to themselves but also to others. Even though I feel compelled to help them, I decided to be selfish and stay away from them. It is not my responsiblity to save anyone.

Every week, I receive multiple messages from people in social media asking me for help in their health and fitness issues. Some of them are so shameless to even ask me prepare a complete workout and nutrition plan for them. Even though I have the qualification and knowledge to help them, I decided to ignore them or just point them to my website. Yes, I am selfish. I am not responsible to help anyone even though my DreiOptima Performance Protocol™ is highly effective.

Stand up for yourself

Of course, being a little bit more selfish will generate haters in your life. Hey, does it matter?

“If you don’t have haters, you’re not standing up for anything”

– Charles Poliquin

Should you be responding to your haters? Should you justify yourself for being a little bit selfish? Sometimes, yes… if you feel that you’ve messed up. Just apologize and move on. If they don’t forgive you, don’t sweat about it. Most of the time, you can safely ignore them and move on with your life.

Have I made mistakes in the past? Hell yes I do. The key point is not to avoid mistakes. Making mistakes in life is how you grow. Nobody gets it right in the first try. They most important thing is to put effort not to make the same mistakes TWICE.

Be selfish when it comes to your health and wellbeing

I have heard too many people telling me they have no time and energy to take care of their health. Of course you don’t! That’s because you’re not selfish enough to prioritize your own health and wellbeing.

Your schedule never lies.

Most people are wasting their time doing unproductive & unnecessary things. They work for the sake of work. For what? A few hundred bucks extra in increment? That’s a really sad life if you’re like that.

I teach my students to always use the Finger In The Eye (F.I.T.E) technique. Only do that most important work that will yield most of the results. The other tasks will become easier and unnecessary.

Another major time waster is social media. Hey, spending time on social media is NOT being selfish and NOT a way to lower stress. If you want to lose fat ? The first diet you should be going on is a social media diet:

(snippet from my Fat Loss Seminar in Kota Kinabalu, Sabah)

The takeaway

I hope you learn how to be a bit more selfish so you can be a better person. In all honesty, you need to learn how to be a little bit more selfish for the things you want in life. Otherwise, this world will never want you to have the things you dream of.

I wish you all the best!

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